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text: Irina Voiculescu<\/h4>\n

ilustratie: Raluca Cozmi<\/h4>\n

\u201eDac\u0103 ne putem deta<\/i>\u0219<\/i>a de ceea ce cred ceilal<\/i>\u021b<\/i>i <\/i>\u0219<\/i>i dac\u0103 ne putem asuma povestea noastr\u0103 personal\u0103, noi c\u0103p\u0103t\u0103m acces la pre<\/i>\u021b<\/i>uirea de sine\u201d (\u201eDarurile imperfec<\/i>\u021b<\/i>iunii\u201d \u2013 Bren\u00e9 Brown)<\/i><\/strong><\/p>\n

A trecut o perioad\u0103 de c\u00e2nd nu am mai scris ceva care s\u0103 nu aib\u0103 vreo leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu \u0219coala. Credeam c\u0103 aceast\u0103 tematic\u0103 o s\u0103 fie u<\/span>\u0219<\/span>or de abordat, apoi am realizat c\u0103 nu este chiar a<\/span>\u0219<\/span>a de simplu cum pare s\u0103 dezvol<\/span>\u021b<\/span>i un subiect f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 te bazezi pe research, ci doar pe experien<\/span>\u021b<\/span>a personal\u0103, unul at\u00e2t de comun <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i, totodat\u0103, at\u00e2t de complex.<\/span><\/p>\n

Afl\u00e2ndu-ne la \u00eenceput (oarecum) de prim\u0103var\u0103, o perioad\u0103 cu iubire, o perioad\u0103 de veselie <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i rena<\/span>\u0219<\/span>tere, este foarte u<\/span>\u0219<\/span>or s\u0103 ui<\/span>\u021b<\/span>i de tine, s\u0103 ui<\/span>\u021b<\/span>i s\u0103 te \u00eengrije\u0219ti <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i de nevoile tale, s\u0103 ui<\/span>\u021b<\/span>i s\u0103-<\/span>\u021b<\/span>i acorzi <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i momente \u00een care s\u0103 respiri, apoi s\u0103 te asiguri c\u0103 totul este \u00een regul\u0103 \u00een sufletul t\u0103u. <\/span>\u0218<\/span>i ce \u00eenseamn\u0103, p\u00e2n\u0103 la urm\u0103, ca totul s\u0103 fie \u00een regul\u0103 \u00een sufletul t\u0103u? Nu sunt bucuriile de o clip\u0103 suficiente? Eu cred c\u0103 nu; cred c\u0103 aceasta este, de fapt, defini<\/span>\u021b<\/span>ia iubirii de sine: s\u0103 ai puterea s\u0103 te asiguri tu pe tine c\u0103 e<\/span>\u0219<\/span>ti bine <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i s\u0103 fii \u00eemp\u0103cat cu propria persoan\u0103 chiar <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i atunci c\u00e2nd clipa aceea de fericire a trecut.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u0218<\/span>tiu c\u0103 este mult mai u<\/span>\u0219<\/span>or de zis dec\u00e2t de f\u0103cut, pentru c\u0103, perfec<\/span>\u021b<\/span>ionist\u0103 fiind, nu reu<\/span>\u0219<\/span>esc mereu s\u0103 m\u0103 ridic la propriile a<\/span>\u0219<\/span>tept\u0103ri. Tocmai de aceea, acest articol nu prezint\u0103 top 10 activit\u0103<\/span>\u021b<\/span>i de f\u0103cut ca s\u0103 \u00ee<\/span>\u021b<\/span>i \u00eent\u0103re<\/span>\u0219<\/span>ti stima de sine, pentru c\u0103 le-am mai auzit cu to<\/span>\u021b<\/span>ii m\u0103car o dat\u0103: f\u0103 ceva ce te pasioneaz\u0103, cump\u0103r\u0103-<\/span>\u021b<\/span>i flori, ie<\/span>\u0219<\/span>i \u00een natur\u0103, skincare \u015fi self care, scrie \u00eentr-un jurnal, \u00eenva<\/span>\u021b<\/span>\u0103 s\u0103 te bucuri de propria companie, cite<\/span>\u0219<\/span>te, ie<\/span>\u0219<\/span>i din zona de confort <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i lista poate continua. Nu pot spune c\u0103 nu sunt eficiente, dar, pe termen lung, este nevoie de mai mult dec\u00e2t at\u00e2t.<\/span><\/p>\n

Revenind la citatul din \u00eenceput, l-am ales pentru c\u0103, de<\/span>\u0219<\/span>i nu sunt tocmai o mare admiratoare a c\u0103r<\/span>\u021b<\/span>ilor de dezvoltare personal\u0103, a rezonat cel mai tare cu mine <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i mi se pare un reper care merit\u0103 luat \u00een seam\u0103. Nu este un secret pentru nimeni c\u0103 aproape \u00eentreaga noastr\u0103 via<\/span>\u021b<\/span>\u0103 se \u00eenv\u00e2rte \u00een jurul p\u0103rerilor celorlal<\/span>\u021b<\/span>i, \u00een jurul dorin<\/span>\u021b<\/span>ei de a ne integra, de a ne face pl\u0103cu<\/span>\u021b<\/span>i. \u00cen \u00eencercarea de a anticipa posibilele critici ale celor din jur, din nevoia de ap\u0103rare, ajungem deseori s\u0103 devenim cei mai mari critici ai no<\/span>\u0219<\/span>tri. Din ce am observat la mine \u00eens\u0103mi, critica constructiv\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2ne sf\u00e2nt\u0103. Iubirea de sine vine din efortul de a-<\/span>\u021b<\/span>i con<\/span>\u0219<\/span>tientiza gre<\/span>\u0219<\/span>elile cu g\u00e2ndul de a \u00eenv\u0103<\/span>\u021b<\/span>a ceva din ele, nu pentru a te pune la p\u0103m\u00e2nt.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u0218<\/span>i totu<\/span>\u0219<\/span>i de ce este a<\/span>\u0219<\/span>a de greu? Pentru c\u0103 nimeni nu vrea s\u0103 acceseze <\/span>\u0219i s\u0103 analizeze<\/span> p\u0103r<\/span>\u021b<\/span>ile mai pu<\/span>\u021b<\/span>in fericite din via<\/span>\u021b<\/span>\u0103, e<\/span>\u0219<\/span>ecul, alegerile \u201egre<\/span>\u0219<\/span>ite<\/span>\u201d<\/span>. Foarte des ne este fric\u0103 de ele pentru c\u0103 ne este fric\u0103 de durerea cu care vin la pachet, pentru c\u0103 vrem s\u0103 ne r\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103 proasp\u0103t \u00een minte o imagine pozitiv\u0103 a noastr\u0103. Nu spun asta \u00een calitate de cunosc\u0103tor \u00een domeniul psihologiei, ci \u00een calitate de observator. Eu, spre exemplu, nu m\u0103 aveam prea tare la suflet atunci c\u00e2nd emotivitatea m-a oprit din a ob<\/span>\u021b<\/span>ine ceva ce \u00eemi doream, nici \u00een zilele \u00een care sentimentul de anxietate m\u0103 ap\u0103sa ore \u00eentregi, nici atunci c\u00e2nd aveam mult de \u00eenv\u0103<\/span>\u021b<\/span>at <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i de lucrat, dar nu reu<\/span>\u0219<\/span>eam deloc s\u0103 m\u0103 concentrez <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i nici c\u00e2nd deveneam irascibil\u0103 cu cei din jur. M\u0103 apreciez, \u00eens\u0103, acum, pentru c\u0103 mi-am dat voie s\u0103 expun public aceast\u0103 autoanaliz\u0103. Drumul c\u0103tre iubirea de sine \u00eencepe prin a vedea <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i p\u0103r<\/span>\u021b<\/span>ile bune, dar <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i pe cele mai pu<\/span>\u021b<\/span>in bune <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i prin a le accepta ca f\u0103c\u00e2nd parte din tine; toate sunt experien<\/span>\u021b<\/span>e <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i tr\u0103iri care contribuie, con<\/span>\u0219<\/span>tient sau nu, la dezvoltarea ta ca persoan\u0103 <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i cred c\u0103 <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i asta face parte din complexitatea vie<\/span>\u021b<\/span>ii.<\/span><\/p>\n

Acest articol trebuia s\u0103 se numeasc\u0103 \u201eCum am \u00eenv\u0103<\/span>\u021b<\/span>at s\u0103 m\u0103 iubesc?\u201d, dar a<\/span>\u0219<\/span> min<\/span>\u021b<\/span>i s\u0103 spun c\u0103 am aflat secretul iubirii necontenite de sine <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i o s\u0103-l dezv\u0103lui aici. A<\/span>\u0219<\/span>a cum, de-a lungul vie<\/span>\u021b<\/span>ii, nu ne oprim niciodat\u0103 din \u00eenv\u0103<\/span>\u021b<\/span>at, acela<\/span>\u0219<\/span>i principiu se aplic\u0103 <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i \u00een acest caz. Este normal s\u0103 e<\/span>\u0219<\/span>u\u0103m uneori \u00een a ne accepta a<\/span>\u0219<\/span>a cum suntem, apoi s\u0103 \u00eenv\u0103<\/span>\u021b<\/span>\u0103m, s\u0103 gre<\/span>\u0219<\/span>im iar <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i s\u0103 mai \u00eenv\u0103<\/span>\u021b<\/span>\u0103m un pic. Este nevoie doar de voin<\/span>\u021b<\/span>\u0103, r\u0103bdare <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i perseveren<\/span>\u021b<\/span>\u0103. Iar dac\u0103 acestea trei sunt posibile atunci c\u00e2nd vrem s\u0103 trecem cu bine peste un examen, s\u0103 avans\u0103m \u00een carier\u0103 sau s\u0103 atingem orice <\/span>\u021b<\/span>el de viitor pe care ni l-am propus, nu v\u0103d de ce nu ar fi <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i c\u00e2nd miza este s\u0103n\u0103tatea mintal\u0103 <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i o stim\u0103 de sine ridicat\u0103.<\/span><\/p>\n

V\u0103 invit, deci, s\u0103 v\u0103 \u00eentreba<\/span>\u021b<\/span>i de ce v\u0103 iubi<\/span>\u021b<\/span>i. Chiar dac\u0103 r\u0103spunsul la aceast\u0103 \u00eentrebare poate fi, \u00een acest moment, greu de g\u0103sit, doar \u00eencercarea de a-l formula poate fi un mod prin care s\u0103 v\u0103 ar\u0103ta<\/span>\u021b<\/span>i vou\u0103 \u00een<\/span>\u0219<\/span>iv\u0103 c\u0103 v\u0103 pas\u0103 (e chiar terapeutic).<\/span><\/p>\n

O s\u0103 \u00eencepem noi:<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201eM\u0103 iubesc pentru c\u0103 am avut curajul s\u0103 cer ajutorul atunci c\u00e2nd am avut nevoie, pentru c\u0103 sunt sensibil\u0103 <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i, \u00een acela<\/span>\u0219<\/span>i timp, puternic\u0103 atunci c\u00e2nd situa<\/span>\u021b<\/span>ia o cere, pentru c\u0103 \u00eemi dau voie s\u0103 m\u0103 <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i relaxez, pentru c\u0103 \u00eemi cunosc limitele, pentru c\u0103 dau tot ce pot pentru a ob<\/span>\u021b<\/span>ine ceea ce \u00eemi doresc <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i pentru felul \u00een care m\u0103 entuziasmez chiar <\/span>\u0219i din cele mai <\/span>m\u0103runte lucruri.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201ePentru c\u0103 mereu am fost sincer\u0103 cu mine \u0219i mi-am urmat intui\u021bia \u00een situa<\/span>\u021b<\/span>ii dificile. Timpul mi-a dovedit c\u0103 a nu te min<\/span>\u021b<\/span>i pe tine este cel mai mare serviciu pe care \u021bi-l po\u021bi face.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201ePentru c\u0103 \u00een fiecare moment \u00een care pare c\u0103 \u00eemi pierd speran<\/span>\u021b<\/span>a si mi-am atins limita, m\u0103 ridic \u00eenc\u0103 o data \u0219i continui. \u00cemi iubesc puterea de a fi vulnerabil\u0103 \u0219i de a \u00eemi \u00eenfrunta sentimentele, ca apoi s\u0103 ies \u0219i mai tare din acel moment.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201ePentru c\u0103 sunt o persoan\u0103 puternic\u0103 , care indiferent de situa<\/span>\u021b<\/span>ie a reu<\/span>\u0219<\/span>it s\u0103 se ridice \u0219i s\u0103 treac\u0103 peste. Iubesc c\u0103 sunt o persoan\u0103 ambi<\/span>\u021b<\/span>ioasa \u0219i am curajul s\u0103 \u00eemi exprim p\u0103rerile \u0219i viziunea.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201ePentru c\u0103 sunt puternic\u0103. Sunt un om frumos \u0219i sunt m\u00e2ndr\u0103 de mine.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201eA\u015fa cum zicea o pies\u0103 celebr\u0103 la \u00eenceput de anii 2000 \u201cDac\u0103 nu eu, atunci cine?\u201d. M\u0103 iubesc pentru c\u0103 doar eu o pot face \u00eentr-o m\u0103sur\u0103 complet\u0103 \u015fi sincer\u0103; pentru c\u0103 doar iubirea de sine e necondi\u0163ionat\u0103 \u015fi pentru c\u0103 e cel mai frumos cadou pe care mi-l pot oferi mie \u00eens\u0103mi.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201ePentru c\u0103 sunt. Cred cu t\u0103rie c\u0103, indiferent c\u00e2\u0163i oameni \u00eent\u00e2lnim \u015fi c\u00e2t de multe experiment\u0103m \u00een aceast\u0103 via\u0163\u0103, singura constant\u0103 este faptul c\u0103 ne avem pe noi \u00een\u015fine.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201ePentru c\u0103 eu m\u0103 cunosc cel mai bine \u2013 \u0219tiu cum s\u0103-mi alin lacrimile \u015fi cum s\u0103 m\u0103 fac s\u0103 z\u00e2mbesc, \u015ftiu ce am nevoie s\u0103 aud ca s\u0103 pot \u00eenvinge orice provocare \u015fi \u015ftiu ce trebuie s\u0103 fac pentru a m\u0103 sim\u0163i iubit\u0103.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201ePentru c\u0103 am dat mereu 100% pentru mine \u015fi pentru c\u0103 \u015ftiu c\u0103 voi continua s\u0103 investesc tot ce am pentru a m\u0103 dezvolta \u015fi a-mi atinge visurile.\u201d<\/span>
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text: Irina Voiculescu ilustratie: Raluca Cozmi \u201eDac\u0103 ne putem deta\u0219a de ceea ce cred ceilal\u021bi \u0219i dac\u0103 ne putem asuma povestea noastr\u0103 personal\u0103, noi c\u0103p\u0103t\u0103m acces la pre\u021buirea de sine\u201d (\u201eDarurile imperfec\u021biunii\u201d \u2013 Bren\u00e9 Brown) A trecut o perioad\u0103 de c\u00e2nd nu am mai scris ceva care s\u0103 nu aib\u0103 vreo leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu \u0219coala. Credeam […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":6475,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"on","_et_pb_old_content":"

text: Irina Voiculescu<\/h4>

ilustratie: Raluca Cozmi<\/h4>

\u201eDac\u0103 ne putem deta<\/i>\u0219<\/i>a de ceea ce cred ceilal<\/i>\u021b<\/i>i <\/i>\u0219<\/i>i dac\u0103 ne putem asuma povestea noastr\u0103 personal\u0103, noi c\u0103p\u0103t\u0103m acces la pre<\/i>\u021b<\/i>uirea de sine\u201d (\u201eDarurile imperfec<\/i>\u021b<\/i>iunii\u201d \u2013 Bren\u00e9 Brown)<\/i><\/strong><\/p>

A trecut o perioad\u0103 de c\u00e2nd nu am mai scris ceva care s\u0103 nu aib\u0103 vreo leg\u0103tur\u0103 cu \u0219coala. Credeam c\u0103 aceast\u0103 tematic\u0103 o s\u0103 fie u<\/span>\u0219<\/span>or de abordat, apoi am realizat c\u0103 nu este chiar a<\/span>\u0219<\/span>a de simplu cum pare s\u0103 dezvol<\/span>\u021b<\/span>i un subiect f\u0103r\u0103 s\u0103 te bazezi pe research, ci doar pe experien<\/span>\u021b<\/span>a personal\u0103, unul at\u00e2t de comun <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i, totodat\u0103, at\u00e2t de complex.<\/span><\/p>

Afl\u00e2ndu-ne la \u00eenceput (oarecum) de prim\u0103var\u0103, o perioad\u0103 cu iubire, o perioad\u0103 de veselie <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i rena<\/span>\u0219<\/span>tere, este foarte u<\/span>\u0219<\/span>or s\u0103 ui<\/span>\u021b<\/span>i de tine, s\u0103 ui<\/span>\u021b<\/span>i s\u0103 te \u00eengrije\u0219ti <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i de nevoile tale, s\u0103 ui<\/span>\u021b<\/span>i s\u0103-<\/span>\u021b<\/span>i acorzi <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i momente \u00een care s\u0103 respiri, apoi s\u0103 te asiguri c\u0103 totul este \u00een regul\u0103 \u00een sufletul t\u0103u. <\/span>\u0218<\/span>i ce \u00eenseamn\u0103, p\u00e2n\u0103 la urm\u0103, ca totul s\u0103 fie \u00een regul\u0103 \u00een sufletul t\u0103u? Nu sunt bucuriile de o clip\u0103 suficiente? Eu cred c\u0103 nu; cred c\u0103 aceasta este, de fapt, defini<\/span>\u021b<\/span>ia iubirii de sine: s\u0103 ai puterea s\u0103 te asiguri tu pe tine c\u0103 e<\/span>\u0219<\/span>ti bine <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i s\u0103 fii \u00eemp\u0103cat cu propria persoan\u0103 chiar <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i atunci c\u00e2nd clipa aceea de fericire a trecut.<\/span><\/p>

\u0218<\/span>tiu c\u0103 este mult mai u<\/span>\u0219<\/span>or de zis dec\u00e2t de f\u0103cut, pentru c\u0103, perfec<\/span>\u021b<\/span>ionist\u0103 fiind, nu reu<\/span>\u0219<\/span>esc mereu s\u0103 m\u0103 ridic la propriile a<\/span>\u0219<\/span>tept\u0103ri. Tocmai de aceea, acest articol nu prezint\u0103 top 10 activit\u0103<\/span>\u021b<\/span>i de f\u0103cut ca s\u0103 \u00ee<\/span>\u021b<\/span>i \u00eent\u0103re<\/span>\u0219<\/span>ti stima de sine, pentru c\u0103 le-am mai auzit cu to<\/span>\u021b<\/span>ii m\u0103car o dat\u0103: f\u0103 ceva ce te pasioneaz\u0103, cump\u0103r\u0103-<\/span>\u021b<\/span>i flori, ie<\/span>\u0219<\/span>i \u00een natur\u0103, skincare \u015fi self care, scrie \u00eentr-un jurnal, \u00eenva<\/span>\u021b<\/span>\u0103 s\u0103 te bucuri de propria companie, cite<\/span>\u0219<\/span>te, ie<\/span>\u0219<\/span>i din zona de confort <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i lista poate continua. Nu pot spune c\u0103 nu sunt eficiente, dar, pe termen lung, este nevoie de mai mult dec\u00e2t at\u00e2t.<\/span><\/p>

Revenind la citatul din \u00eenceput, l-am ales pentru c\u0103, de<\/span>\u0219<\/span>i nu sunt tocmai o mare admiratoare a c\u0103r<\/span>\u021b<\/span>ilor de dezvoltare personal\u0103, a rezonat cel mai tare cu mine <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i mi se pare un reper care merit\u0103 luat \u00een seam\u0103. Nu este un secret pentru nimeni c\u0103 aproape \u00eentreaga noastr\u0103 via<\/span>\u021b<\/span>\u0103 se \u00eenv\u00e2rte \u00een jurul p\u0103rerilor celorlal<\/span>\u021b<\/span>i, \u00een jurul dorin<\/span>\u021b<\/span>ei de a ne integra, de a ne face pl\u0103cu<\/span>\u021b<\/span>i. \u00cen \u00eencercarea de a anticipa posibilele critici ale celor din jur, din nevoia de ap\u0103rare, ajungem deseori s\u0103 devenim cei mai mari critici ai no<\/span>\u0219<\/span>tri. Din ce am observat la mine \u00eens\u0103mi, critica constructiv\u0103 r\u0103m\u00e2ne sf\u00e2nt\u0103. Iubirea de sine vine din efortul de a-<\/span>\u021b<\/span>i con<\/span>\u0219<\/span>tientiza gre<\/span>\u0219<\/span>elile cu g\u00e2ndul de a \u00eenv\u0103<\/span>\u021b<\/span>a ceva din ele, nu pentru a te pune la p\u0103m\u00e2nt.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>

\u0218<\/span>i totu<\/span>\u0219<\/span>i de ce este a<\/span>\u0219<\/span>a de greu? Pentru c\u0103 nimeni nu vrea s\u0103 acceseze <\/span>\u0219i s\u0103 analizeze<\/span> p\u0103r<\/span>\u021b<\/span>ile mai pu<\/span>\u021b<\/span>in fericite din via<\/span>\u021b<\/span>\u0103, e<\/span>\u0219<\/span>ecul, alegerile \u201egre<\/span>\u0219<\/span>ite<\/span>\u201d<\/span>. Foarte des ne este fric\u0103 de ele pentru c\u0103 ne este fric\u0103 de durerea cu care vin la pachet, pentru c\u0103 vrem s\u0103 ne r\u0103m\u00e2n\u0103 proasp\u0103t \u00een minte o imagine pozitiv\u0103 a noastr\u0103. Nu spun asta \u00een calitate de cunosc\u0103tor \u00een domeniul psihologiei, ci \u00een calitate de observator. Eu, spre exemplu, nu m\u0103 aveam prea tare la suflet atunci c\u00e2nd emotivitatea m-a oprit din a ob<\/span>\u021b<\/span>ine ceva ce \u00eemi doream, nici \u00een zilele \u00een care sentimentul de anxietate m\u0103 ap\u0103sa ore \u00eentregi, nici atunci c\u00e2nd aveam mult de \u00eenv\u0103<\/span>\u021b<\/span>at <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i de lucrat, dar nu reu<\/span>\u0219<\/span>eam deloc s\u0103 m\u0103 concentrez <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i nici c\u00e2nd deveneam irascibil\u0103 cu cei din jur. M\u0103 apreciez, \u00eens\u0103, acum, pentru c\u0103 mi-am dat voie s\u0103 expun public aceast\u0103 autoanaliz\u0103. Drumul c\u0103tre iubirea de sine \u00eencepe prin a vedea <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i p\u0103r<\/span>\u021b<\/span>ile bune, dar <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i pe cele mai pu<\/span>\u021b<\/span>in bune <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i prin a le accepta ca f\u0103c\u00e2nd parte din tine; toate sunt experien<\/span>\u021b<\/span>e <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i tr\u0103iri care contribuie, con<\/span>\u0219<\/span>tient sau nu, la dezvoltarea ta ca persoan\u0103 <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i cred c\u0103 <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i asta face parte din complexitatea vie<\/span>\u021b<\/span>ii.<\/span><\/p>

Acest articol trebuia s\u0103 se numeasc\u0103 \u201eCum am \u00eenv\u0103<\/span>\u021b<\/span>at s\u0103 m\u0103 iubesc?\u201d, dar a<\/span>\u0219<\/span> min<\/span>\u021b<\/span>i s\u0103 spun c\u0103 am aflat secretul iubirii necontenite de sine <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i o s\u0103-l dezv\u0103lui aici. A<\/span>\u0219<\/span>a cum, de-a lungul vie<\/span>\u021b<\/span>ii, nu ne oprim niciodat\u0103 din \u00eenv\u0103<\/span>\u021b<\/span>at, acela<\/span>\u0219<\/span>i principiu se aplic\u0103 <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i \u00een acest caz. Este normal s\u0103 e<\/span>\u0219<\/span>u\u0103m uneori \u00een a ne accepta a<\/span>\u0219<\/span>a cum suntem, apoi s\u0103 \u00eenv\u0103<\/span>\u021b<\/span>\u0103m, s\u0103 gre<\/span>\u0219<\/span>im iar <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i s\u0103 mai \u00eenv\u0103<\/span>\u021b<\/span>\u0103m un pic. Este nevoie doar de voin<\/span>\u021b<\/span>\u0103, r\u0103bdare <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i perseveren<\/span>\u021b<\/span>\u0103. Iar dac\u0103 acestea trei sunt posibile atunci c\u00e2nd vrem s\u0103 trecem cu bine peste un examen, s\u0103 avans\u0103m \u00een carier\u0103 sau s\u0103 atingem orice <\/span>\u021b<\/span>el de viitor pe care ni l-am propus, nu v\u0103d de ce nu ar fi <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i c\u00e2nd miza este s\u0103n\u0103tatea mintal\u0103 <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i o stim\u0103 de sine ridicat\u0103.<\/span><\/p>

V\u0103 invit, deci, s\u0103 v\u0103 \u00eentreba<\/span>\u021b<\/span>i de ce v\u0103 iubi<\/span>\u021b<\/span>i. Chiar dac\u0103 r\u0103spunsul la aceast\u0103 \u00eentrebare poate fi, \u00een acest moment, greu de g\u0103sit, doar \u00eencercarea de a-l formula poate fi un mod prin care s\u0103 v\u0103 ar\u0103ta<\/span>\u021b<\/span>i vou\u0103 \u00een<\/span>\u0219<\/span>iv\u0103 c\u0103 v\u0103 pas\u0103 (e chiar terapeutic).<\/span><\/p>

O s\u0103 \u00eencepem noi:<\/span><\/p>

\u201eM\u0103 iubesc pentru c\u0103 am avut curajul s\u0103 cer ajutorul atunci c\u00e2nd am avut nevoie, pentru c\u0103 sunt sensibil\u0103 <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i, \u00een acela<\/span>\u0219<\/span>i timp, puternic\u0103 atunci c\u00e2nd situa<\/span>\u021b<\/span>ia o cere, pentru c\u0103 \u00eemi dau voie s\u0103 m\u0103 <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i relaxez, pentru c\u0103 \u00eemi cunosc limitele, pentru c\u0103 dau tot ce pot pentru a ob<\/span>\u021b<\/span>ine ceea ce \u00eemi doresc <\/span>\u0219<\/span>i pentru felul \u00een care m\u0103 entuziasmez chiar <\/span>\u0219i din cele mai <\/span>m\u0103runte lucruri.\u201d<\/span><\/p>

\u201ePentru c\u0103 mereu am fost sincer\u0103 cu mine \u0219i mi-am urmat intui\u021bia \u00een situa<\/span>\u021b<\/span>ii dificile. Timpul mi-a dovedit c\u0103 a nu te min<\/span>\u021b<\/span>i pe tine este cel mai mare serviciu pe care \u021bi-l po\u021bi face.\u201d<\/span><\/p>

\u201ePentru c\u0103 \u00een fiecare moment \u00een care pare c\u0103 \u00eemi pierd speran<\/span>\u021b<\/span>a si mi-am atins limita, m\u0103 ridic \u00eenc\u0103 o data \u0219i continui. \u00cemi iubesc puterea de a fi vulnerabil\u0103 \u0219i de a \u00eemi \u00eenfrunta sentimentele, ca apoi s\u0103 ies \u0219i mai tare din acel moment.\u201d<\/span><\/p>

\u201ePentru c\u0103 sunt o persoan\u0103 puternic\u0103 , care indiferent de situa<\/span>\u021b<\/span>ie a reu<\/span>\u0219<\/span>it s\u0103 se ridice \u0219i s\u0103 treac\u0103 peste. Iubesc c\u0103 sunt o persoan\u0103 ambi<\/span>\u021b<\/span>ioasa \u0219i am curajul s\u0103 \u00eemi exprim p\u0103rerile \u0219i viziunea.\u201d<\/span><\/p>

\u201ePentru c\u0103 sunt puternic\u0103. Sunt un om frumos \u0219i sunt m\u00e2ndr\u0103 de mine.\u201d<\/span><\/p>

\u201eA\u015fa cum zicea o pies\u0103 celebr\u0103 la \u00eenceput de anii 2000 \u201cDac\u0103 nu eu, atunci cine?\u201d. M\u0103 iubesc pentru c\u0103 doar eu o pot face \u00eentr-o m\u0103sur\u0103 complet\u0103 \u015fi sincer\u0103; pentru c\u0103 doar iubirea de sine e necondi\u0163ionat\u0103 \u015fi pentru c\u0103 e cel mai frumos cadou pe care mi-l pot oferi mie \u00eens\u0103mi.\u201d<\/span><\/p>

\u201ePentru c\u0103 sunt. Cred cu t\u0103rie c\u0103, indiferent c\u00e2\u0163i oameni \u00eent\u00e2lnim \u015fi c\u00e2t de multe experiment\u0103m \u00een aceast\u0103 via\u0163\u0103, singura constant\u0103 este faptul c\u0103 ne avem pe noi \u00een\u015fine.\u201d<\/span><\/p>

\u201ePentru c\u0103 eu m\u0103 cunosc cel mai bine \u2013 \u0219tiu cum s\u0103-mi alin lacrimile \u015fi cum s\u0103 m\u0103 fac s\u0103 z\u00e2mbesc, \u015ftiu ce am nevoie s\u0103 aud ca s\u0103 pot \u00eenvinge orice provocare \u015fi \u015ftiu ce trebuie s\u0103 fac pentru a m\u0103 sim\u0163i iubit\u0103.\u201d<\/span><\/p>

\u201ePentru c\u0103 am dat mereu 100% pentru mine \u015fi pentru c\u0103 \u015ftiu c\u0103 voi continua s\u0103 investesc tot ce am pentru a m\u0103 dezvolta \u015fi a-mi atinge visurile.\u201d<\/span><\/p>","_et_gb_content_width":"","_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[2,32,39],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-6533","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-articole","category-articole-feminism-hertimeromania","category-opinii"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/hertimeromania.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6533","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/hertimeromania.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/hertimeromania.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hertimeromania.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hertimeromania.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6533"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/hertimeromania.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6533\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":6536,"href":"https:\/\/hertimeromania.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6533\/revisions\/6536"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hertimeromania.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/6475"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/hertimeromania.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6533"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hertimeromania.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6533"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/hertimeromania.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6533"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}